Instead of asking, “What’s wrong with me?” I invite you to ask, “What is right with me?”
When we have experienced learning while being abused, our procedural memory can easily takeover with accelerated speed, blaming and criticizing ourselves raw. As a result, we can experience “emotional dysregulation” and a rapid change in our physiology caused by stress hormones being released.
Let’s give ourselves compassion from all we’ve been through. We deserve it. When we were treated less than and crushed emotionally it didn’t help our development or the situation. But now, we can give compassion to ourselves. I invite you to take a breath and relax any tension in your body. Reframing “What‘s wrong with me?” to “What is right with me?” Here’s an example list.
What is right with me?
- I have endurance.
- I get up when I fall.
- I learn from my mistakes.
- I keep moving forward even when while I rest (refueling).
- I pause and slow down.
- As a child, I was so resourceful that I survived all the abuse. And I’m still resourceful.
- I choose a new beginning—a new normal.
- I know how to conquer.
- I live in the present.
- I know how to have fun.
